Last Updated on June 4, 2020 by Shuvani Sanyal, MD
We have a treat for our listeners today as I interview my boyfriend, P. Nickle and he shares his perspective about living with and loving someone who runs an STI/STD website, but more importantly, who is living with a sexually transmitted disease/infection.
You may have noticed some of his recent articles about how he felt when he first found out and what sex is like with me. He’ll be continuing to share his thoughts and perspectives in the weeks to come, so feel free to comment and let him know if you’ve found his views beneficial – we really hope you have!
What to Expect When You’re Expecting…a Podcast
In an effort to cater to short attention spans (mainly, my own), we keep these podcasts between 10 and 15 minutes in length. When we have guests on the show, sometimes they’re a little bit longer, but we know you’re busy. So, we promise to always do our very best to be as concise as possible.
Today’s Podcast
Today’s podcast runs about 18 minutes in length. I interview my significant other, P. Nickle, and he shares how he feels about dating someone with an STD and what he thinks about stigma and education in particular.
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Next week, I’ll be interviewing the author of ‘HPV & HSV1 – The Year of 2 STDs – STI Interviews‘, Lindsey Wahowiak. Stay tuned!
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This podcast interview was with P. Nickle, The STI Project’s significant other. P. Nickle has a BA in Business and is currently working on his Masters in Criminal Justice and Psychology. He served in the United States Air Force and is a veteran of both Iraq and Afghanistan. He believes he has always had an open mind, an open heart, and he welcomes all walks of life regardless of sexuality, creed, or race. He is looking forward to sharing his views, knowledge, and experiences with STDs with you guys, our audience. He encourages all comments and questions.
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What did you think of today’s podcast? Do you have a suggestion for an upcoming podcast? Or would you like to take part in an upcoming podcast interview/conversation via Skype or in person? Share your thoughts in the comments section below!
stacey
This was a great podcast! Nice to hear the point-of-view of the other partner. I experienced the “disdain” you were talking about from the OB/GYN who diagnosed me. He was a typical old- school guy who only had sex with his wife to whom he has been married to for over 50 yrs. and who he met at church in the 50’s-you know, the stereotypical “how we met” stories the older generation loves to tell. Made me feel shameful and disgusting. He told me my life would never be the same & to get ready for all the rejection I was going to face since “once you tell them, that is usually the end of it.” Nice huh?!!! No emotional support whatsoever. Attempted suicide a yr later and ended up in the critical care heart unit. Thank goodness I did not succeed & eventually got the proper counselling & emotional support I needed. And BTW, my life turned out to be nothing like he told me it would be!
stacey
Oh, and it also did not matter to him that I contracted it from my 1st sexual partner ever at the age of 19. He(the doc) still made it out that I was acting like a slut!
Jenelle Marie
Hi stacey –
Thanks so much for your comments.
Although I’m not surprised to hear you were treated similarly (read: Dr. ‘Awkward’ and the Not So Awesome Genital Herpes Diagnosis for more detail on my poor experience), it never ceases to frustrate me, and, if I didn’t have a website designed to put that energy to good use, I might just implode. There was a time, in fact – seems like a whole lifetime ago now – when I came very close to doing just that and taking my life as well. I think, that’s why the stigma being perpetuated by clinicians, in particular, infuriates me so: they don’t realize the emotional impact they have on their patients and their potential to help is so great and is often lost because of their inability to see beyond their own myths and misconceptions. Shame on them.
I could lament ad nauseum (obviously).
The thing to focus on here is that you did find the proper counselling and support and your outcome was nothing like the physician implied, and, for all of that, I’m delighted. Good for you.
Anyhow, thanks so much for sharing, stacey, and I’m so happy to hear you’ve proven the old fart (IDIOT) wrong!